The hypocrisy of supposed “nice” guys.

A friend of mine posted a picture on his facebook today and while he isn’t in the situation himself nor does he necessarily agree with sentiment displayed, the image itself is the latest in this strange and creepy trend of these blogs and images circling the internet about the entitlement of the “nice guy.”  Here’s the one I saw:

To be honest, it’s pretty funny.  It’s just that it perpetuates this idea that because a guy is nice to a girl who is his friend, she is now obligated to fall in love with him.  There’s another image I saw circulating around where it was the confession of a “former nice guy,” who lamented the fact that he was the shoulder for her to cry on as all the assholes broke her heart over and over again.  He then concluded that in order to get girls, he was going to become an asshole because he “tried” being a nice guy and that didn’t work out.  

Newsflash: If you’re only being a nice guy with the intent of getting into a girl’s pants, you’re NOT A NICE GUY.  You’re just the passively manipulative version of an asshole.  

From what I know, which isn’t much, when it comes to my dating experience and observing my friends’ dating lives, it’s not that girls like assholes.  Nor do they like pitiful guys that are overly sensitive, weepy and offer nothing but incessantly supportive statements.  Most girls, just like guys, like somebody who is balanced!  Not a complete selfish asshole, but not a dweeby yes man.  If somebody is defining how they act simply by how it affects their dating life, then they probably aren’t stable enough to date anyone and should find an actual personality before asking somebody on a date.